Do You Feel Rejected?

Isaiah 50:6-9

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I read the story of a boy who did everything he could just to get his father to say well done. If he came home from school with excellent results, his father asked what happened to the marks he did not get. If he performed excellently well in other activities, his father never acknowledge it. His father only wanted perfection, nothing less. One day, the boy decided that he would never be able to make his father proud, so he committed suicide. This was a tragic story, but a lesson for everyone to learn from. No one should jeopardize his or her life in a mission to please everyone. This week’s writing encourages us to stop looking for approval from the wrong direction.

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One of the biggest mistakes that people make in life is thinking that they can please everybody. They over-labour and overwork themselves trying to be in the good books of everyone. They relegate their own priorities to the background just to satisfy everyone else. They even do the things you do not send them, just so you can hug them and say thank you. Please don’t get me wrong, these things are not bad; it’s good to help others and especially it’s good to be there for friends and family. However, when all you’re trying to do is to get people’s attention, any little disapproval hurts you to the bone.

Please beware, not everyone will like you, and the earlier you know it, the better it is for you. You can try all you can, sacrifice all there is, and some people will still not look at your side. You may be thinking, what have I done, or what am I doing wrong, why is it that he or she likes everyone but me, why is my own different, how do I look that irritates them, how do I speak, why don’t they want me in their group, why am I being excluded when they plan things, why don’t they ever say thank you to all my efforts and sacrifices to assist them?

From the foundation, it’s a mistake to want to be liked by everyone. Why is that even a desire, let alone a goal to pursue? Jesus told His disciples that a disciple is not greater than his master. Some individuals  and some groups of people never liked Jesus. It did not matter that He was on earth to save and set them free. It did not matter that His mission was to die for their sins. Herod wanted to kill Him at infancy. He ended up killing thousands of innocent children, but his target was untouched. The pharisees were His avowed enemies. When He did good, they interpreted it as evil. When He healed people, they questioned His actions. When people who had been in bondage from birth were set free, they got angry.  When He ate with sinners, they questioned His holiness. There was nothing He could have done that would make them happy. So, if the world did all these to Jesus who came to set them free, how much more will they do it to you.

There’s a truth we must all learn, that whatever we do, we should have Christ in mind. You may be working in an office where some people hate you. It could be that you are a Christian and they just cannot stand your values. It could be that your colour is different from theirs. It could be that you refuse to do what they do. It could be that you are too short or too tall, too big or too small. It could be your accent or the way you speak. There will always be a reason some do not like you. It could be your level of education or lack of comprehension of the things they discuss. It does not matter how good or how hardworking or how humble you are, some people will even hate you because you say sorry too much.  This is the reality of life. In chapter 50, the book of Isaiah says this:

Isaiah 50:6-9 NKJV

I gave My back to those who struck Me, And My cheeks to those who plucked out the beard; I did not hide My face from shame and spitting. "For the Lord GOD will help Me; Therefore I will not be disgraced; Therefore I have set My face like a flint, And I know that I will not be ashamed. He is near who justifies Me; Who will contend with Me? Let us stand together. Who is My adversary? Let him come near Me.  Surely the Lord GOD will help Me; Who is he who will condemn Me? Indeed they will all grow old like a garment; The moth will eat them up.

I can tell you to quit wanting everyone to like you, but that’s not enough, because one thing you should never feel is inferior. In case you have forgotten, you’re the greatest thing that God ever created. You are unique, handsome or beautiful, fearfully created with dominion handed over to you even without asking. God Himself became flesh so He may die for you and redeem you. Who is the person that will condemn you whom the Lord has justified. You are wise, powerful, favoured, a child of the most high God, and on a journey toward eternity with the King of kings. How could mere men make you inferior? 

If you have been wondering for years what you are doing wrong, perhaps your new year resolution should be to know your level. Whether we like it or not, you cannot aspire to be friends with everyone. The rich is always friend to the rich. Politicians are friends with politicians and celebrities are friends with celebrities. Perhaps you have been thinking you can just walk up to everyone and want to be friends with them. You can’t, and this is completely unnecessary. Be happy with the people who like you and manage your relationships wisely. And if anyone is taking advantage of you, and causing you emotional trauma, I do not see anywhere in the Bible where it is a sin to retreat from a relationship that causes you harm.

Please place value on yourself this year and come out of every inferiority complex. If you don’t make yourself happy, no one will. If you are in this situation, please look at yourself in the mirror and say, no more. The only relationship you cannot afford to sever is the one between you and your Maker. You are too valuable to be despondent. Go out everyday with your head raised high. You are seated with Christ far above principalities and powers, and it’s time to act like it.

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Raise your head high, you are a child of the most high God.